*_The manager accepts the status quo; the leader challenges it._*
— _Warren Bennis_
There is what happens. Then there is what you do with what happens.
Helpful, hurtful, caring, indifferent, frustrating, joyful, surprising, predictable things happen to everyone. Each person makes something different out of all those things.
You are not special because you are a victim or a beneficiary of circumstance. You are special because of the unique life, the substance, the richness you carve out of your circumstances.